Father and children connection 1

Have you ever consider the fact that there is a connection between you and your children? Have you also considered that if a person desire to bring a negative outcome in the lives of children, they sometimes will do it through their dads? That is an issue that may be difficult for some dads to accept, but I feel that there is a link between what happens to a father and the outcome that is often seen in the lives of the children he gave birth to. If you observe carefully your dad, you will discover lots of him in you.

The analogy I will prefer to make use of for this issue is; if you want to ensure that the laid eggs don’t hatch, all you need do is to keep the mother hen away from them. Traditionally, it’s impossible for such eggs to hatch on their own, so they will naturally get bad if nothing is done about them so that they neither can hatch into young chicks nor are edible. I feel this is true when it comes to the relationship of a dad and his children; if you want to get through to the children all you need do is get through to their fathers and you can do whatever you want with them. Make a dad irresponsible, and naturally his children will trail after him except they have a strong willed mum who is determined to ensure they don’t take that path. However, she will not be successful to make them all as she may so desire.

Recently I had two dreams, and in each of them, I was sentenced to death. After the second dream, I screamed, I will not die but live to declare the works of the Lord and I rebuked death (do bear with me, I wrote this from my Christian background). The next day after the second dream, I fell really ill and had to get my self some medication. On the same day, my children had also fallen ill with malaria, and two days later one of them almost gave up the ghost if not for what I call divine intervention.

This got me thinking on the need for fathers to rise up to their role as the head of the family, and live responsibly. What we do with our lives will reflect in the lives of our children; so how we live will end up boomeranging on us through our children in the future. I feel that all fathers should take the time out to do more than giving money and buying gifts to their children; I feel that all fathers should take the time out to pray and watch the way they live because of their children.

Here is the story of Daniel to buttress this point…

At a point in my life, I discovered that I was impotent; I discover that I don’t have early morning hard on like my male counterparts. I just couldn’t understand why because there was no known hereditary sickness like that in my lineage; neither did my younger male brothers have such experience. I didn’t know how to share this with my dad initially because we weren’t that close; in the period that I grew up fathers are treated like gods, while wives and children like subjects. So I kept this quiet for many years until the point that it was inevitable that I get married.


Right from when I was young, people find me odd; I neither relate with the opposite sex nor date any because of the low self esteem that I had developed due to my medical challenge. I have heard all manner of comments that people make because of my singleness, at my age and the level of success that I have achieved over the years. One of the gossips that a dear friend told me he heard was that I must have used my organs for money making ritual.

In the year 2003, I summoned courage and discussed my situation with my pastor; after prayers he asked me to see my dad. I am to ask him what he did for me to be born; what he would say was the link and the key to unlocking the challenge I had kept for years. When I met my dad on the issue, he told me the story of my birth; he said that when mum was pregnant, she had difficulties giving birth to me and since medical treatment wasn’t the in thing in the village then, he opted to seen the voodoo priest for assistance. He was told to make some sacrifices, which he did but, he wasn’t told the consequence that will be the outcome. When he went to see another voodoo priest on the issue (the first one had died years ago), he was told that Daniel situation can’t be reversed.

Armed with this information, I went to see my pastor and I was prayed for; today I am married with two children of my own.

The father here took the option that was available to him, yet it had a negative impact on the life of his child. By the actions of the fathers, the children will be filled with favor or disfavor. I want to use this medium to reach out to fathers on the need to take great care in the decisions they make; it may seem like a harmless one like Daniel’s dad, but it may leave a lasting devastation on the life of their children.

Olufemi Fasanya
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